Counseling

Coping with Change & Loss

Coping With Change & Loss

Common responses to change and loss may include: (1) denying the extent to which you are impacted by the situation; (2) feeling angry, frustrated, irritable, or sad; (3) attempting to control the uncontrollable; (4) gradually accepting the situation for what it is.

Acknowledge Your Feelings

It is normal to experience a wide range of emotions in response to the current circumstances. At times, it might seem easier to avoid or numb these feelings, but in the long-term it is generally more helpful to allow yourself to feel all of your emotions, both pleasant and unpleasant. If you find the unpleasant feelings to be overwhelming, try implementing self-care strategies and do not hesitate to reach out for support.

Practice Self-Care

To aid in developing a resilience to stress there are a variety of things that can help. Think about establishing a daily routine that includes getting at least 8 hours of sleep, eating well-balanced meals, being physically active, engaging in activities that bring you joy & moments of relaxation, finding time for productive work, and connecting with others.

In peak moments of stress, try to repeat a mantra of choice to yourself, such as “This feeling will pass.” “It’s okay to not feel okay,” or “I can get through this moment.” Mantras can help us get through tough moments and remind us that feeling states come and go.

Find Meaning

Loss can provide the opportunity to reevaluate and find meaning in life.

  • Acknowledge the losses you have faced.
  • Take some time to consider what is important to you. What gives value to your life?
  • Focus on the areas important to you which you have some control over: connect with people you care about, help others and your community, dive into meaningful hobbies or projects, plan for your future with a mindset of hope.
  • Identify 5 people in your life who have helped you in some way and send them a thank you note, email or text to let them know you appreciate them. They could be a family member, friend, classmate, teacher, mentor, or someone from your past.

Resources

WCSU Counseling Services
Student Health & Wellness Center
(Connected to Newbury Hall)
181 White Street, Danbury, CT 06810

Phone: (203) 837.8690
Email: CounselingServices@wcsu.edu
Instagram: wcsu_counselingservices

 

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